At first glance, you may feel absolutely resistant when you look at this step. How can I let someone find out about me? You may feel fear, dread, anticipation of rejection and humiliation if anyone knows of your past or “secrets”. Perhaps you may feel knots and tangles in your body with no vision or understanding as to how to “untangle” those knots. “Fearlessly” writing an inventory takes enough energy, and trips your trigger wires badly enough – now you have to actually share this with someone. When I got ready to share my inventory with my beloved therapist, I was pleasantly surprised when I discovered that this process became the validation I had always longed for.
When I first met Adam, it was not obvious why he came to me for help with the Twelve Steps. From a superficial look at his life he appeared to have every reason to be a trusting person. He described his successful love-relationship, healthy and smart children, a genuine love for his work, and a satisfying social life. His life would be the envy of most people, with a bank account, and external factors that most people dream of. Unlike many people who turn to the Twelve Steps because of addictive patterns of behavior in their lives, Adam turned to the Twelve Steps because a friend had urged him to seek help using spiritual principles that have helped countless others.
Rivka Edery is a social worker who is dedicated to helping survivors of trauma to recover healthy lives. Her book explains the invisible cord underlying the problems resulting from unresolved trauma which dramatically hinder a person trying to live a satisfying life. She clearly illustrates the therapeutic value of incorporating spirituality as part of a survivor’s recovery process. This discussion is useful to both the survivor and the mental health professional.