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STEP ELEVEN Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the Power to carry that out.

Step Eleven is the daily practice and experience of deepening your awareness of your Higher Power through prayer and meditation.  You are capable of prayer and meditation, regardless of your background or history.  If you set aside the time daily, you can reach for whatever you believe is greater than, deeper than, or beyond yourself.  Step Eleven also assumes that by now you have a conscious awareness of your Higher Power, and you are drawn to deepening that connection.   

STEP TEN Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

Step Ten is not about maintenance, because there is a rule in our universe that nothing ever stays the same.  All living matter is either in a process of growing or in the process of regressing.   Up until now, if you followed the first nine steps with an honest heart and the direction of a Higher Power, you will have grown considerably.  If you do not keep growing, you will start sliding back into your old behavior patterns and ways of thinking.  As you may now realize, spiritual growth is an experience so precious and valuable.  As with the preceding nine steps, the Tenth Step is one more power-tool to help you succeed during the day. 

STEP FIVE: "Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs."

At first glance, you may feel absolutely resistant when you look at this step.   How can I let someone find out about me?  You may feel fear, dread, anticipation of rejection and humiliation if anyone knows of your past or “secrets”.  Perhaps you may feel knots and tangles in your body with no vision or understanding as to how to “untangle” those knots.  “Fearlessly” writing an inventory takes enough energy, and trips your trigger wires badly enough – now you have to actually share this with someone.  When I got ready to share my inventory with my beloved therapist, I was pleasantly surprised when I discovered that this process became the validation I had always longed for. 

STEP ONE: "We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable."

Step One is your guide on how to process and heal from trauma.  It will also serve as your guide to personal growth, which is applicable for anyone, not just for trauma survivors. Why is processing trauma, and personal growth, important for you?  You may wonder of the necessity of going through such a process, especially if you are high functioning and successful in life.  After all, growing pains are indeed painful, and we humans are wired to avoid pain and seek pleasure.   You also have a responsibility to take care of yourself, and although some pain can be avoided, there is the pain that cannot be avoided, and requires processing.   

INTRODUCTION

This book is directed to the individuals without any experience of Twelve Step recovery, the seasoned veteran of Twelve Steps, as well as the experienced mental-health professional.   The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous have helped countless addicts.  This healing process is based upon spiritual principles that speak to the human spirit.  If you practice them, you will experience physical and spiritual growth, and emotional stability.   

FORWARD to Trauma and Transformation: A 12-Step Guide

Rivka Edery is a social worker who is dedicated to helping survivors of trauma to recover healthy lives.  Her book explains the invisible cord underlying the problems resulting from unresolved trauma which dramatically hinder a person trying to live a satisfying life.  She clearly illustrates the therapeutic value of incorporating spirituality as part of a survivor’s recovery process.  This discussion is useful to both the survivor and the mental health professional.